How to handle a "problem child"?

[eacorletto]

I coach a u-14G team that has gone un-defeated deep into the season. However, she has been my monkey wrench ever since we started the season 3 months ago. She has gone up and down in terms of attitute but as of now, just about all the girls are dis-liking her. To the point that there was arguing during the match this weekend. Do I pull 1-3 players aside or talk to the team in general terms about team unity and so forth?

[Shrt bus]

I would start by talking to the team as a whole (so no one feels singled out) to see if that will calm the situation down. If that doesnt help THEN I would call the person(s) too the side after a practice and have a lil discussion.

[lanesra]

You might also start with her parents, or maybe even a former coach. Could be that there is some reason she is acting this way, or she could just be a jerk. I'd like to know if it is the former before I'd do anything.

Edit: Oh, and welcome Shrt bus. Good first post.

[CanadianMark]

This is a very difficult position. In my opinion, you are first and foremost the coach and all players, including the problem player need to respect that. If she is acting out, don't be afraid to call her on it. Not nessecarily to embarass her, but in a firm manner to let her know that her behavior is not acceptable and she needs to contribute to the team and to her responsibilities in her position.

Having said that, if this is a recreational team and you are assigned the players and you don't have the choice to reduce playtime, you can only do what you can do. I had this issue with a girl on my past rec team. Our first playoff game, two of the best girls on the team were extremely frustrated a began arguing with her on the field. I did have to talk to them. I started the conversation by asking them, "ladies, is there something on your mind? You sound frustrated out there...." They opened up and began to explain their frustrations. My explanation was this...I need you to contribute the best you can in the roles I have given you. I understand you are frustrated with this situation, and I am very proud of the effort you are giving. I see what is happening out there and I need you to be positive and encouraging. That will help her to do the right things with confidence. If you begin to get down on each other out there, things will only get worse.

I hope this helps, and for what it's worth, there's one in every crowd. Good luck!

CanadianMark

[Val]

Welcome to the boards, O Mark from Canada. I do love the reach this site has, and it always helps to have broader experience. Good post.

[teamtheme]

I have in the past got the whole team together and discussed the issues that are occuring in the team. Sit them down explain its not good for the team to argue and ask them with your help to come up with a teams code of conduct. You could ask them to write any issues they have down so no one feels picked on and read them at home.
Punishment has no place in Junior football so make them work together during drills to bond.
If it continues consider speaking to parents or ask someone to become a club welfare officer